General Overthinking

[Sharma Ji]

Sage advice @Paitoo

ek cognitive disposition bhi hota hai

some seeds wont flower in the wrong soil, like

no one size fits all wala scene

 

[Mrloveday]

What is this chtyapa.

You feed 2 large dogs but not yourself?

Why man?

Eat some of your dog's chicken. Replace the quantity with doodh, rice, roti/bread, veggies, eggs.

Chicken is chicken bc. Uspe dog likh ke nahin aata hai.

A lot of behaviour is genetic but can be changed with conscious effort. I get OCD from my mom and impatience from my dad. But I have trained my mind hard to get to some sort of normal levels. It requires constant effort, and not some "do it for 21 days and a new neural path will be developed" kind of thing. At the cost of sounding simplistic and repetitive:

1. Stop thinking what others think of you. In the end it just doesn't matter. (unless you are being paid by them lol)
2. Stop thinking that you need to have the solution to all problems in the world
3. You didn't come into this world by choice. You first need to lookout for yourself. As long as you are not taking something away from someone, you don't owe anybody anything
4. Stop believing that you need to leave some mark in this world. Alexander nahin bano. Yeh sab se bada chutyapa hai.

I have also dealt with financial instability for the past many years. It makes it way worse. If you are financially stable (for the foreseeable future too), there is absolutely no reason to inflict any mental pain upon yourself

Good advice.

Financial issue bhi hai.

I didn't not believe in luck and fate.

But I have realised that some things are out of your control. You can't defeat fate.

 

[Vsdoc]

A lot of behaviour is genetic but can be changed with conscious effort. I get OCD from my mom and impatience from my dad. But I have trained my mind hard to get to some sort of normal levels. It requires constant effort, and not some "do it for 21 days and a new neural path will be developed" kind of thing. At the cost of sounding simplistic and repetitive:

1. Stop thinking what others think of you. In the end it just doesn't matter. (unless you are being paid by them lol)
2. Stop thinking that you need to have the solution to all problems in the world
3. You didn't come into this world by choice. You first need to lookout for yourself. As long as you are not taking something away from someone, you don't owe anybody anything
4. Stop believing that you need to leave some mark in this world. Alexander nahin bano. Yeh sab se bada chutyapa hai.

I have also dealt with financial instability for the past many years. It makes it way worse. If you are financially stable (for the foreseeable future too), there is absolutely no reason to inflict any mental pain upon yourself

Having children, bringing them up well, is already your mark on the world you are leaving that will continue after you.

Some of us will develop something that will be used and help humanity long after we are gone.

Or write or paint or build something, that will outlive us.

 

[Sharma Ji]

Many are not having marriage only

and many married are not having the children only

 

[Sharma Ji]

in this days

 

[Vsdoc]

Many are not having marriage only

and many married are not having the children only

True.

It is a blessing and a privilege.

 

[Sharma Ji]

no one size fits all

I know some, not as lucky.. baccha tapka dia before split

awkward scene

but them seemingly perfect waaley you also see, phull sorted..

but aaj kal more ands more chalta

nmot all bad, tbh .. wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Vsdoc]

no one size fits all

I know some, not as lucky.. baccha tapka dia before split

awkward scene

but them seemingly perfect waaley you also see, phull sorted..

but aaj kal more ands more chalta

nmot all bad, tbh .. wouldn't have it any other way.

Awkward is how you describe the lot of children when their parents separate?